People seems to depend on their emotion. It is not easy to control things which beyond expectation. But you don’t know those are kind of big mistakes you should not make.
- Always compare yourself with others
The biggest imperfection of life is to compare yourself to others. Comparing yourself to the better will make you self-deprecating, comparing to the worse person can make them complacent.
Comparison is what makes you lose your identity. There is a story: a man sits on a river for fishing, he catches a lot of fishes. But every time he finishes, he takes a ruler to compare, which is bigger than the ruler. Then he will throw it back into the river.
The people sitting next to feel strange and ask him: “Other people want to such big fishes, but why do you drop them?”
“Because the pot at home is just have same size of this one, the fish is too big for the pot.” Do not let the desire invade you, “enough to use ” is a not bad lifestyle.
Everyone has their own color. Tomorrow does not need to admire the peony, the moon does not need to envy the sun.
You should proud to be an independent part of this life. You are different and have your own values. So that, comparing is not worthy
2. Meaningless regret
Regretting is the most useless emotion, but there are so many people who are always deep in that emotion. It just makes you feel worse but cannot compensate for the things you think you should have not done or things you should have done but did not .
When that emotion comes to you, keep the distance with it, look at it and say, thanks for passing by, but this is already the past.Nothing can change. Comfort is the most important thing right now
Be persistence to past events only proves that you are weak, shortsighted, and even narrow-minded.
The thing you should do is accept the results, then try to make a better future. Human life, unwilling things are not rare, brave people are the ones who know to enjoy the best and dare to face the worst things that can happen.
Past can bring lesson to our better life. Instead of regret, let’s move forward with your effort to change future.
3. Keep complaining all day
What are causes of our complaint? Not more than the following these words: cannot let it go, cannot see through , also cannot forget.
Having a couple after marriage, they argued every day, they finally decided to find the famous psychologist Milton H. Erickson.
After listening to continuous argument of young couple, the psychologist said: “The purpose of your marriage is to fight every day like this, is’nt it?” The couple became quiet, and did not say anything :
Complaining, like a tumor, its size will grow in your negative emotions, the best medicine to treat it is controlling your emotions, do not let emotions slip nose and take you away.
We often complain when things do not work as expected, like doing so the problem will be resolved. But in reality, the problem is still there, complaining is just a waste of time, even make you miss the best chance to solve the problem. The thing you need to do is to quickly calm down, analyze the problem, actively seek the solution or save it.So say, when being treated unfairly, drill to complain. Because there is a philosophical philosophy as follows: “What exists is reasonable,” the treatment you receive has the cause for its “existence “.
Your enemy of life is complaint, which control your emotion and your words. Stop complaining to enjoy your life.
You cannot control others, but you can control yourself, you cannot control the weather but you can change your mood. Controlling emotion is the best way to stop you complaining.
Life is short, why do you have to carry the burden along?