Many individuals have busy schedules, many tasks need to be completed but still find it very difficult to reject the offers.
The reason for this hesitation for fear that they fear refusal will worsen the image of a diligent, enthusiastic and most important employee is that they will lose promotion opportunities if they do not accept help.
Many people think that “successful people will always say” yes “to work”. On the contrary, in fact, if they do, the performance will decrease, unable to keep up with everything and ultimately frustrate people, especially themselves.
Agreeing to help is the basis for our upcoming long-term goals. But many people have misunderstood this with the willingness to say “yes” when someone requests such a superior or partner. They hoped that somehow these things would help them.
And here is the advice of career expert Dara Blaine for you:
“We are thinking that in this era, people who are successful, those who go ahead always say” Yes “to everything.
The problem here is:
Why should you say “no” more often?
Why would you become comfortable with rejecting others?
First, when you always agree to help people, your priorities will gradually change and towards others. Gradually you will feel exhausted and stressed because the working time is not arranged, distributed as you want.
And it will get worse.
Continuously “working hard” like that for a while, you won’t have time for important things (such as career, hobby or family). And worst of all, you will lose confidence and others will think unconsciously that you are a person with no assertiveness to what is needed.
However, many people still find it difficult to say these two words “reject”.
Let me share this: “Don’t try to please people because that’s impossible. You’ll hurt yourself if you try.”
The main factor preventing people (perhaps yourself) from saying “no” is the fear of disappointing others. Remember that you have to take care of yourself. When you are stressed and tired, even if you have won a lot of help for others, it is unlikely that they will take the time for you.
Review your priorities
Do you distinguish what you need to do and what you must do?
Think about that question.
In my experience, it is very important that no work is forgotten. When you are concerned about too many problems, you will not spend enough time on the most necessary things.
If you’re not clear about your priorities, take some time to list all of what you’re doing, what you want to do and what you have to do.
The most important thing will emerge and you will quickly come up with why these things need to be done right now.
Effective priorities can help you achieve higher productivity, save time and reduce stress. Once you know what is most important you will easily decide where to focus your time and energy.
Learn to say No rationally
Saying “no” and learning how to deny others helps you to create a limit for yourself, as well as enhance respect for yourself. It helps people understand that you also have your own needs and limitations.
Now the question is: “How should I refuse”?
Here are my seven tips:
Directly use phrases like “no”, “I don’t want” or “I can’t”.
Don’t feel the need to apologize or give a reason to refuse the job.
If you can, frankly, then you won’t feel awkward later
Use polite words like “thank you for asking” or “I’m very sorry”
Imagine saying “no”: You can do this by thinking about your self-confidence when denying requests that affect your time or your effort. (This will make it easier to say no in real life.)
Avoid saying things like “let me think about it” when you know you don’t want to do it.
Always remember that self-worth doesn’t depend on what you do for others.
Now, you don’t need to apply all seven tips but if possible, learn at least two or three. In this way, you get emotional and spiritual power to regain control of your life.
When you think you are being taken advantage of by doing things that will make you lose focus on your priority tasks – you will say “no”. And once you start mastering this, your confidence will increase and you will put your life in the new wind.