It is no coincidence that world leaders respect how to shake hands as well as practice and prepare good psychology when meeting leaders of other countries.
A handshake certainly has more implications than the action of two people standing opposite and shaking hands.
It has the ability to express confidence, purpose, control, a sense of fear, intimidation and even disrespect from the opposite. Therefore, shaking hands with others can also make your partner grasp your inner personality and thinking.
Therefore, if you are not aware of the difference, a job opportunity or a negotiation may be lost because you do not know the rules that were previously defined.
1. Use both hands to shake hands
If you get a handshake with both of your opponent’s hands with a second hand against the back of your hand, that’s a sign that the opponent accepts control from you but still wants a discussion.
The message that the other person wants to convey is: “Let’s talk about it together”, and this also shows that the opponent is an honest and open person in communication.
However, if the opponent’s second hand is on your hand, it may imply that the opponent feels unreliable in the relationship between the two and this action is self-defense.
2. The dominant handshake
This dominant handshake opponent is likened to a wrestler when their hands try to put their hands up on your hands. The opponent’s palm facing down indicates desire to dominate and even the opponent’s aggression.
Basically, this person implied that “I am the boss, I don’t care what you think and I will be the one who makes the final decision”. In other words, this is the person who likes to dominate and conquer others, they are suitable for leading the work.
In addition, this person also tends to be conservative, persistent when listening to other people’s opinions. Not only that, the handshake with the force to push your hand downwards is a sign of controlling others.
3. The submissive handshake
The submissive handshake is described as the opposite hand’s palm facing up. This type of handshake comes from shy or vulnerable people.
In other words, this person is not confident and easily dominated. In the case of the opposite person’s thumb above, this proves that they are feeling controlled.
4. The “Dead fish” handshake
If the handshake is described as weak, lack of vigor like a dead fish, it shows the lack of commitment, indifference and even weakness of the opposite person. It shows the message that the opponent can be easily submissed by others.
However, in some cultures like in African countries, a soft handshake is a polite way to greet someone while a resolute person can be considered offensive.
5. The “boquet of carrots” handshake
When this person shakes your hand, they clamp your hand between their fingers in a negative way. The implicit opponent implies: “I am not interested in this” and will not even bother to show their purpose and character.
It is also revealed that this person is easily bullied by people around. However, this also means that the person simply does not like physical contact.
In order to have a handshake that’s supposed to be “standard”, you need to practice giving yourself a moderate handshake, looking at the opposite person for a period of 1 to 5 seconds. Handshake posture should be definitive, clear and depending on certain circumstances.
And the most important thing is the sincerity and respect for the opponent that makes them believe in you more.
6. The handshake type only contacts the opposite person’s fingers
This type of handshake is often seen in people who meet first-time and more powerful characters. When only using the palm to squeeze the opponent’s fingers, it is a shy, unconfident person in front of the opposite person.
In addition to the lack of confidence, the enemy still implicitly understands that this person is still hospitable and not confident enough, close to them.