Don’t turn yourself into a bunny chasing a carrot hanging from a stick, stay awake and be content with your life.
My father was a structural engineer. He went to work regularly from Monday to Saturday, from 8:00 am to 5:30 pm. He was often at home after 6 pm.
Here, we could enjoy noisy of the crowded city, listened to the loud horns of the car screaming out loud, shouting from those who are in a hurry to plug their necks back home to Family reunion. The day I was a boy, smart phones were not popular, people were not influenced by the 4.0 as now.
With his job, my father always ensured the financial well-being of his family. Many changes were evident on every street, home, and people around 40-50 years old might be hard to keep up with changes that are happening day by day.
One of the most obvious changes that can be noticed is that more and more “genuine” cars appear. The shiny Mercedes and Audi cars appear majestically and starkly on the street, whirling around with the sound of a powerful screaming engine. Meanwhile, my father, despite of being rich, was still faithful to the green Future car, calmly wandered other brand cars to move forward.
Dad once told me: “You want to be rich, I am very welcome. As long as don’t let that wish deflect morality and my dignity.”
Now, when I was nearly a 29-year-old man, I fully understood his sentence. But at the time, I was only 14 years old, the age of madness, wildness, recklessness, so I responded quite harshly: “I want to be rich, no matter what, I would rather lose my morality and personality. It will be better when earning money rather than rolling in poverty “.
My father chuckled, and told me: “The money is very mesmerizing, but one day you will see their left side. Pretty funny, I have met many people, and the happiest people usually are not rich people. ”
As a sensitive person, my father noticed that the amount of money in hand is inversely proportional to happiness. That is, the more money you hold in your hand, the more boring and boring your life will feel.
You can live in comfortable houses, point five fingers to control others to work for themselves, drive expensive, luxury cars but you often suffer from loneliness, or affectionate couple (The reason is that you often have to travel to work too much), have many diseases cannot be cured no matter using cost medicines …
You can make a lot of money, but the money you earn is wasted by your family members.
“In short,” my father concluded, “those who live on a mountain of money and beggars, most likely have to share the same negative emotions.”
Money is never enough. The more we earn, the more we want to earn more. We think that money can help us buy happiness.
But happiness is just a short-term joy. After experiencing satisfied moments, our brain is programmed to balance emotional elements, bringing us back to the rhythm of normal life.
If chasing happiness is just meaningless, what is the motivation for us to try every day? That is satisfaction.
Happiness can be lost, but satisfaction always stays. If you can be content with yourself, you can accept your strengths and weaknesses, you can enjoy the joy of winning more fully, as well as know how to smile when get fail. If you are alone, you can be content to share with strangers. If you have nothing, you can still be satisfied because you still have tomorrow to look forward to.
Don’t make yourself be a bunny chasing a carrot hanging from a stick, stay awake and be content with your life.
In 2015, my father fell ill, he was enthralled, the wrinkles on his forehead became clear every day, resulting from the pain of writhing from kidney failure. The doctor, the nurse in the hospital worked hard, try to make him feel as comfortable as possible.
I grabbed my father, painfully looked at him, whispered: “Don’t worry, then everything will be fine.” Dad has been struggling all his life to ensure his family’s full life, and now it is the time for his family to help him.
That night, my father died. Although he had prepared his psychology before, when we received that bad news, a sadness was evident on the face of every family member. I stood there, feel that I was strangely satisfied.
Because I managed to get as much time as possible in my father’s time during the time he fell ill. I also arranged for my mother to meet Dad (my mother was in Saigon before). I felt fine because when he needed me the most, I was always with him. And every time I think my father is now happy in heaven, not have to endure persistent pains, I suddenly smile.
Dad taught me many valuable lessons about life. And when my father left, I was aware that he was always watching me, so I had to seriously do what he taught me. I began to find satisfaction in things which appeared around me, from family, friends, to more abstract things like health, emotions, …
I realized that the more I thought, the harder it was to be happy. Happiness really only appears when we know how to clean our minds. This world is cloudy because of so many intrigues. If we can live a simple life, and be willing to help others in our capacity, we can live a worthy life.